My Life Rulz


My Life Rulz are 10 foundational mental rules* to build emotional resilience.

Here are the first six………..

  1. I belong here. I do belong.
  2. I can get used to this place and still grow.
  3. I deserve to feel safe and loved – always.
  4. Sometimes life is good and fair.  Sometimes it’s not.
  5. All my choices matter.  They all have consequences.
  6. God does care, even when it doesn’t seem like it.

* RULZNot rules as such, rather they are read as principles to guide ones life by.  By nature, rules are inflexible and seek to control thinking. Rulz however, seek to guide ones thinking and enhance ones ability to live well.


Because children are our most precious resource. “One dreams of what a better world this place would be if all our children had received the benefit of committing My Life Rulz to memory before the age of 10 years. But what better time to begin the vision than now? We commend it to you with hope and prayer that it will find a vital place in the hearts and lives of parents, families, Schools and Churches who are passionate about this generation.”

David J Riddell, Living Wisdom, Nelson, NZ.

Because it is not acceptable to have children suffering from anxiety, depression and hopelessness.



My Life Rulz builds a healthy mind and can be grasped by children of all ages, cultures and aptitudes. Using a variety of media presentations this is encapsulated common sense at its best; simple, comprehensive and profound and can be grasped in just minutes.

Resourcing families and communities; My Life Rulz reaches into the depths of the mind to unearth the toxic thinking.  ‘Stinking thinking’ that causes stress, anxiety, depression and suicide along with the many other aliments that hinder our young and increasingly older people today.   Easy to use and no training needed.  My Life Rulz uses a powerful technique of trace, face and replace.  Tracing the thinking to its root, facing the root assumption and replacing it with truth and insight giving hope to those once struggling to find any.   In a world of chaos, where ‘feelings’ rule and fear is reigning, My Life Rulz brings light into the lives of those using these powerful resources. Tested and developed by the authors over many thousands of hours of counselling clinical practice in both New Zealand and Australia. My Life Rulz comes as part of the larger Living Wisdom Library of Counselling resources.  For more on’How’ …….

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1 month ago

My Life Rulz

I have just seen (via video) and heard from Steven Sakala and @David Riddell Living Wisdom from Zambia. David is currently running a two week school in Ndola (Zambia) and it is now Saturday. There are 120 children who call themselves 'My Life Rulz' children and they are running races today with David. It is so amazing to see these precious children declaring war on 'stinking thinking' and learning to tell themselves the truth! Today they are running in the physical but they are also running a spiritual race. May they cross the finishing line with great success! ... See MoreSee Less

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So awesome!!

Will he be visiting us at Namwianga?

Yay go Dave!! did you win??!! Looks like everyone was winning xo

Wow! What a victory.

Aww. How wonderful

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3 months ago

My Life Rulz

I am always trying to keep up with technology. I have just finished re-filming the User Guide Workshop to replace the DVD which has been in the back of the My Life Rulz Book for the last 8 years. DVD's are about to be a thing of the past so we are launching a My Life Rulz You Tube Channel where anyone will be able to access the 14, 8 minute segments for developing emotional resilience in children. Stay tuned for launch date. I am glad my mind is my friend because listening to yourself and watching yourself is never a great experience! ... See MoreSee Less

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Awesome work Jo, you constantly inspire!

Wonderful !

So excited for this!!!!!

Chuck it up on Udemy too.

Tino pai e hoa e Jo...

Excited this stuff has revolutionised myself and my kids thankyou 😀

Nice work Jo.

Great going Jo

Can’t wait to get this!!

Great idea :). And you look beautiful and sound great

I think you are amazing

Aww. Awesome. The technology of today

Great work Joan!

Brilliant series i got when i studied to become a chappy. Instead it tranformed how I parented

Love these photos Jo. They made me smile 😊

I enjoy watching and listening you speak 😘

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