My Life Rulz

What?

My Life Rulz are 10 foundational mental rules* to build emotional resilience.

Here are the first six………..

  1. I belong here. I do belong.
  2. I can get used to this place and still grow.
  3. I deserve to feel safe and loved – always.
  4. Sometimes life is good and fair.  Sometimes it’s not.
  5. All my choices matter.  They all have consequences.
  6. God does care, even when it doesn’t seem like it.

* RULZNot rules as such, rather they are read as principles to guide ones life by.  By nature, rules are inflexible and seek to control thinking. Rulz however, seek to guide ones thinking and enhance ones ability to live well.

Why?

Because children are our most precious resource. “One dreams of what a better world this place would be if all our children had received the benefit of committing My Life Rulz to memory before the age of 10 years. But what better time to begin the vision than now? We commend it to you with hope and prayer that it will find a vital place in the hearts and lives of parents, families, Schools and Churches who are passionate about this generation.”

David J Riddell, Living Wisdom, Nelson, NZ.

Because it is not acceptable to have children suffering from anxiety, depression and hopelessness.

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How?

My Life Rulz builds a healthy mind and can be grasped by children of all ages, cultures and aptitudes. Using a variety of media presentations this is encapsulated common sense at its best; simple, comprehensive and profound and can be grasped in just minutes.

Resourcing families and communities; My Life Rulz reaches into the depths of the mind to unearth the toxic thinking.  ‘Stinking thinking’ that causes stress, anxiety, depression and suicide along with the many other aliments that hinder our young and increasingly older people today.   Easy to use and no training needed.  My Life Rulz uses a powerful technique of trace, face and replace.  Tracing the thinking to its root, facing the root assumption and replacing it with truth and insight giving hope to those once struggling to find any.   In a world of chaos, where ‘feelings’ rule and fear is reigning, My Life Rulz brings light into the lives of those using these powerful resources. Tested and developed by the authors over many thousands of hours of counselling clinical practice in both New Zealand and Australia. My Life Rulz comes as part of the larger Living Wisdom Library of Counselling resources.  For more on’How’ …….

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1 week ago

My Life Rulz

Distractions, distractions, distractions! How do we keep kids focused on what really matters in a world full of distractions?
I guess the first thing you need to do is work out what really matters to you. What are your family values and priorities? If a child doesn’t see you reading they are unlikely to develop a love of reading. Your priorities will more than likely become their priorities so intentionally modeling is important here. Are you on your phone while pushing them on a swing? Are you on a device at the pool while they are swimming? Are you too busy to have book time and talk time after tea? Do you have dinner around the table with time for discussion or are you rushing through the ‘to do list’ so you can sit and blob out?
Plan things like a bush walk with some bug collecting, bird watching, flower picking and tree naming. Take time to learn about the world around you. Be curious and keep their curiosity alive. Did you know that a ladybug flaps its wings 62 times in a second? Can you name 6 or more native trees and plants in your area? Do you know if your child is wired for a gift/strength in the sciences, medicine, creative field, building, architecture or engineering? Are you feeding that gift and talent? When it comes to this, the ball is in your court more than it is in theirs! If you have lost your natural curiosity then they may as well, let their wonder become your wonder again. It really is true that we can be learning something new every day.
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Distractions, distractions, distractions!  How do we keep kids focused on what really matters in a world full of distractions? 
I guess the first thing you need to do is work out what really matters to you.  What are your family values and priorities?  If a child doesn’t see you reading they are unlikely to develop a love of reading.  Your priorities will more than likely become their priorities so intentionally modeling is important here.  Are you on your phone while pushing them on a swing?  Are you on a device at the pool while they are swimming?  Are you too busy to have book time and talk time after tea?  Do you have dinner around the table with time for discussion or are you rushing through the ‘to do list’ so you can sit and blob out?  
Plan things like a bush walk with some bug collecting, bird watching, flower picking and tree naming.  Take time to learn about the world around you.  Be curious and keep their curiosity alive. Did you know that a ladybug flaps its wings 62 times in a second? Can you name 6 or more native trees and plants in your area?  Do you know if your child is wired for a gift/strength in the sciences, medicine, creative field, building, architecture or engineering?  Are you feeding that gift and talent?  When it comes to this, the ball is in your court more than it is in theirs!  If you have lost your natural curiosity then they may as well, let their wonder become your wonder again.  It really is true that we can be learning something new every day.

1 month ago

My Life Rulz

If you are interested in a great book to help your child build healthy optimism, this is great. Martin Seligman could see this epidemic of depression and anxiety coming over 30 years ago and in his extensive studies and research he offers this fantastic tool.
In The Optimistic Child, Dr. Martin Seligman offers parents, teachers, and coaches a well-validated program to prevent depression in children. In a thirty-year study, Seligman and his colleagues discovered the link between pessimism - dwelling on the most catastrophic cause of any setback - and depression. Seligman shows adults how to teach children the skills of optimism that can help them combat depression, achieve more on the playing field and at school, and improve their physical health. The Optimistic Child offers parents and teachers the tools developed by the author to teach children of all ages life skills that transform helplessness into mastery and bolster self-esteem.
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If you are interested in a great book to help your child build healthy optimism, this is great.  Martin Seligman could see this epidemic of depression and anxiety coming over 30 years ago and in his extensive studies and research he offers this fantastic tool. 
In The Optimistic Child, Dr. Martin Seligman offers parents, teachers, and coaches a well-validated program to prevent depression in children. In a thirty-year study, Seligman and his colleagues discovered the link between pessimism - dwelling on the most catastrophic cause of any setback - and depression. Seligman shows adults how to teach children the skills of optimism that can help them combat depression, achieve more on the playing field and at school, and improve their physical health. The Optimistic Child offers parents and teachers the tools developed by the author to teach children of all ages life skills that transform helplessness into mastery and bolster self-esteem.

 

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Just brought a copy 🙌🏼 thank you for recommending this

Oh great, thanks Jo Koskela 🙂

Thanks Jo, will have a look!!!! Xx

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